Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Ella Wheeler Wilcox, ca1919

Ella Wheeler Wilcox (November 5, 1850 – October 30, 1919) was an American poet and journalist who was keenly interested in Theosophy, New Thought, and Spiritualism. An enormously popular writer whose verses were criticized by the academic world, her most famous lines are still quoted from her poem "Solitude":

Laugh and the world laughs with you

Weep, and you weep alone.

Personal life

In 1884, she married Robert Wilcox of Meriden, Connecticut, where the couple lived before moving to New York City and then to Granite Bay in the Short Beach section of Branford, Connecticut. The two homes they built on Long Island Sound, along with several cottages, became known as Bungalow Court, and they would hold gatherings there of literary and artistic friends. They had one child, a son, who died shortly after birth. Not long after their marriage, they both became interested in theosophy, new thought, and spiritualism.

Early in their married life, Robert and Ella Wheeler Wilcox promised each other that whoever went first through death would return and communicate with the other. Robert Wilcox died in 1916, after over thirty years of marriage. She was overcome with grief, which became ever more intense as week after week went without any message from him. It was at this time that she went to California to see the Rosicrucian astrologer, Max Heindel, still seeking help in her sorrow, still unable to understand why she had no word from her Robert. She wrote of this meeting:

In talking with Max Heindel, the leader of the Rosicrucian Philosophy in California, he made very clear to me the effect of intense grief. Mr. Heindel assured me that I would come in touch with the spirit of my husband when I learned to control my sorrow. I replied that it seemed strange to me that an omnipotent God could not send a flash of his light into a suffering soul to bring its conviction when most needed. Did you ever stand beside a clear pool of water, asked Mr. Heindel, and see the trees and skies repeated therein? And did you ever cast a stone into that pool and see it clouded and turmoiled, so it gave no reflection? Yet the skies and trees were waiting above to be reflected when the waters grew calm. So God and your husband's spirit wait to show themselves to you when the turbulence of sorrow is quieted.

Several months later, she composed a little mantra or affirmative prayer which she said over and over "I am the living witness: The dead live: And they speak through us and to us: And I am the voice that gives this glorious truth to the suffering world: I am ready, God: I am ready, Christ: I am ready, Robert."

Mrs. Wilcox died of breast cancer on October 30, 1919.

Theosophical Society involvement

Mrs. Wilcox was admitted as a member of the American Theosophical Society on October 14, 1913 in New Haven, Connecticut. Her autobiography, The Worlds and I, makes mentions of Theosophy, Elliott Coues, Emily Lutyens, and L. W. Rogers.

This poem appeared in The Theosophical Messenger in 1902, cited by William John Walters as a good way to convey some concepts of Theosophy to children.

You never can tell what your thoughts may do,

In bringing you hate or love,

For thoughts are things, and their airy wings

Are swifter than carrier dove.

They follow the law of the universe

Each thing must create its kind –

And they speed o'er the track to bring you back.

Whatever went out of your mind.

Writing career

The poem that first brought Mrs. Wilcox fame was "Solitude," published in the February 25, 1883 issue of the New York Sun.

The inspiration for the poem came as she was travelling to attend the Governor's inaugural ball in Madison, Wisconsin. On her way to the celebration, there was a young woman dressed in black sitting across the aisle from her. The woman was crying. Miss Wheeler sat next to her and sought to comfort her for the rest of the journey. When they arrived, the poet was so depressed that she could barely attend the scheduled festivities. As she looked at her own radiant face in the mirror, she suddenly recalled the sorrowful widow. It was at that moment that she wrote the opening lines of "Solitude":

Laugh, and the world laughs with you

Weep, and you weep alone.

For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth

But has trouble enough of its own

She sent the poem to the Sun and received $5 for her effort. It was collected in the book Poems of Passion shortly after in May 1883.

While her poetry was popular, it was not highly regarded by literary critics:

Beginning with the publication of Poems of Passion in 1883 and continuing through the first decades of the twentieth century, Ella Wheeler Wilcox (1) was quite possibly the most commercially successful and most ridiculed poet in the English-speaking world. On the one hand, her popularity was indisputable; as her obituary in the London Times put it, she was "the most popular poet of either sex and of any age, read by thousands who never open Shakespeare" ("Death of Ella Wheeler Wilcox").

Yet her reputation was also bad, as the Literary Digest noted: "Few poets in American letters made so sudden and sensational a success as she did with her initial volume, 'Poems of Passion,' and most persons to whom such luck befell would not have had the staying power to pass through nearly a generation of more or less kindly treatment as a joke" ("Current Poetry" 38).

Writings

Her literary work enjoyed great popularity with the general public, and was much appreciated by Theosophists. Irish poet and educator Dr. James Cousins mentioned "Ella Wheeler Wilcox, who, if she be not conceded a place with the major poets, has influenced many thousands by her verses."

Autobiography

• The Story of a Literary Career. Holyoke, Mass.: Elizabeth Towne, 1905?.
• The Worlds and I. 1918. Available as e-book at Google Books.

Poetry

These are collections of her poetry.

• Poems of Passion. 1883.
• Poems of Purpose.
• Poems of Reflection. Chicago: M. A. Donahue & Co., 1905.
• Poems of Affection. London: Gay and Hancock Ltd, 1920.
• Poems of Cheer. 1915.
• Poems of Progress. 1910. Avaiable at [Ella Wheeler Wilcox.com.
• New Thought Pastels. Holyoke, Mass.: Elizabeth Towne, 1906. Available at Gutenberg.org, New Thought Library, and Ella Wheeler Wilcox.com.

Several of her poems were the basis for silent film treatments:

• The Price He Paid, 1914.
• The Beautiful Lie, 1917.
• The Belle of the Season, 1919.
• The Man Worth While, 1921.

Books and pamphlets

• The Heart of the New Thought. Chicago: Psychic Research Co., 1903. Available at Gutenberg.org and New Thought Library.
• What I Know About New Thought. 1915. This pamphlet had a distribution of 50,000 copies, according to its publisher, Elizabeth Towne. One

Articles

Mrs. Wilcox was widely published in popular magazines and newspapers, and she also had dozens of her poems and articles printed in Theosophical publications. The Union Index of Theosophical Periodicals lists 88 poems and articles by or about Mrs. Wilcox.

Additional resources

• "Ella Wheeler Wilcox: American Poet & Journalist & Free Thinker" at EllaWheelerWilcox.org website.
• "Ella Wheeler Wilcox" in Wikipedia.
• "Ella Wheeler Wilcox" in Poetry Foundation website.
• "Ella Wheeler Wilcox Poems" at Poetry Hunter website.

Video

• "The Heart of the New Thought" on YouTube. Her self-help book is read aloud.